Q: I’m considering giving up competing because the anxiety isn’t worth it. How do I decide if I should push through or quit?

A: This is a deeply personal decision that only you can make. Some important questions to consider:

Is competing something you genuinely want to do, or are you doing it because you feel you should, or because others expect it? Many riders are happier and more fulfilled when they give themselves permission to just enjoy riding without the competition element. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with choosing not to show.

Have you genuinely tried anxiety management strategies, or are you assuming nothing will help? If you haven’t worked systematically on mental skills, tried sports psychology support, or given strategies time to work, you might be giving up prematurely.

What would you gain by stepping back? More enjoyment of riding? Less pressure? Better relationship with your horse? These are valid reasons to reduce or eliminate competing.

What would you lose? The satisfaction of overcoming challenges? Motivation for training? A social community? Goals that drive improvement? Consider both sides honestly.

Could you modify rather than eliminate competing? Perhaps fewer shows, or only local friendly events, or different disciplines that create less pressure? Complete elimination isn’t the only option.

Remember that taking a break isn’t permanent failure. You could step back from competing for six months or a year, work on skills and confidence at home, and return when you feel ready. Or you might discover you’re happier not competing and make that permanent – both are fine outcomes.

The most important thing is honest self-reflection. Don’t let others’ expectations drive your decision. Your riding should enhance your life, not diminish it. If competing causes suffering that outweighs any enjoyment, changing course is wisdom, not weakness.